It is important to be mindful of these things and that the holidays can stir up some negative emotions and behaviors at a time when we think should be filled with joy. As foster parents, we need to be understanding of and
sensitive to these possibilities and act accordingly. Here are some tips:
1. Talk about your upcoming holiday celebrations ahead of time, sharing how you and your family celebrate. Doing so, will help children know what to expect and will give them an opportunity to ask questions.
2. Learn from your foster children how they have celebrated with their families in the past and try to
incorporate at least some of their traditions into your celebrations.
3. Recognize and honor that the holidays can be a time of stress, worry, and conflicted feelings for foster children especially regarding their family of origin. Reassure your foster children that it is o.k. to feel concern, grief, and even sadness for their families. Talk with them about their feelings and be an active listener.
4. This is a great time to connect with birth families to learn about ways in which they’ve celebrated upcoming holidays in the past and then to incorporate those traditions into yours.
5. Create the opportunity for children to make gifts or cards for important people in their lives whether they are their birth parents, siblings, teachers, or other special individuals that they choose to make a gift or card for.
Devereux wishes you a safe and happy holiday season!